tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post443284593811081761..comments2024-02-19T04:50:58.801-05:00Comments on Daddy...Daddy, come back!: Of course it is his faultJoannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-49915832896147542342013-01-25T22:20:51.938-05:002013-01-25T22:20:51.938-05:00Lol, well luckly I had only one tire to fill, so i...Lol, well luckly I had only one tire to fill, so i was able to. Plus, I was even more luck that the gas station I was at had free air. We found out a few days later it had a slow leak, fortunely my pilot was home to get that fixed. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-55927784283155507252013-01-25T21:46:08.828-05:002013-01-25T21:46:08.828-05:00I can identify - it is easy to slide into the nega...I can identify - it is easy to slide into the negative thought spiral when unexpected things go wrong. I have caught myself thinking, "I did not sign up for this!" and then I remembered, um, yes I did. "For better or worse" covers just about everything, does it not?<br /><br />All that said, I do car stuff (just changed the wiper blades last week,) but I think I should avoid taking the car in for maintenance by myself. Our minivan is OLD, and every time I take the damn thing in for something small like an oil change, they tell me I need a thousand dollars worth of work and will need to leave the car overnight. I don't know enough about cars to be able to tell when they're bsing me. I got into a situation like this last month - I had all three kids with me for what should have been a short appointment and ended up having to surrender the car for a day's worth of work. Thank goodness they were willing to give me a loaner, because Joe was on a trip and could not come and get us, but switching the three car seats out was a royal pita. Christinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-39335644288725728502013-01-24T10:08:25.603-05:002013-01-24T10:08:25.603-05:00Thanks! Oh, I don't think we could get lucky ...Thanks! Oh, I don't think we could get lucky enough for bad shit to happen when he is home :) Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-2154897974661495312013-01-24T10:07:23.471-05:002013-01-24T10:07:23.471-05:00Yes, you should learn how to do it. There are so ...Yes, you should learn how to do it. There are so many things you will need to know...how to shut the water off in your house, ect. <br /><br />Thank you for the support and kind words! Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-24463982171798034892013-01-22T18:48:46.895-05:002013-01-22T18:48:46.895-05:00I love this post. It was sweet and I could so rela...I love this post. It was sweet and I could so relate. Take care and pray for all the bad shit to happen on their days off-at home!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04193236012822601820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-58139669874599688242013-01-21T14:49:29.533-05:002013-01-21T14:49:29.533-05:00My tire pressure light came on last month and I am...My tire pressure light came on last month and I am ashamed to say I do not know how to put air in my tires. I figured it was due to cold weather so I let it go for awhile. I asked pilot boyfriend to fix and he did... eventually. I feel lucky that he still did the "man task" despite his schedule! Now I promise I will learn to do it myself and fix it right away. <br /><br />Joanna I think your blog is great. When I first started getting serious in my relationship I looked to it a lot for information and it really helped me. I understand Susan's comment and actually have received similar comments from friends. I think it is easy to vent about the negative or frustrating times and sometimes the relationship can be misrepresented. I have always felt (from reading) that you and Steve are happily married. Thank you for sharing. I know it has taught me a lot! And you do have some positive posts in there too!!Amandahttp://mandiapolis.tumblr.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-13076605026893371052013-01-19T16:09:28.219-05:002013-01-19T16:09:28.219-05:00No, you are not the only person dealing with these...No, you are not the only person dealing with these issues. I have said the before on this blog, and I will say it again: the best compliment is when someone says "I could have written these words myself!" I get this often, and I think it give all of us some support. Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-25385062198161569712013-01-19T16:07:27.537-05:002013-01-19T16:07:27.537-05:00...because if I shared the day to day, my blog pos......because if I shared the day to day, my blog post right now would be "Steve is asleep on the couch. Ben is watching a movie. CC is napping. And I just ate a hard boiled egg." LOL <br /><br />No, life is far from rainbows and butterflies all the time. You are right about that. But, it can still be wonderful. Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-284698328820880012013-01-18T13:30:45.296-05:002013-01-18T13:30:45.296-05:00Joanna, you always share the 'good' stuff....Joanna, you always share the 'good' stuff. You're right... it would be boring to blog about the routine day to day things, that happen between the pilot wife problems, because that would be a bit vanilla. You always share things that we can relate to, and for that I'm thankful. LIfe isn't always rainbows and butterflies. :)Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05396800149031526395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-46167491818661168592013-01-18T12:32:13.094-05:002013-01-18T12:32:13.094-05:00Probably not. I just needed to whine to him a litt...Probably not. I just needed to whine to him a little bit. I actually have a maintenance package that allows me to take a loaner for the day too. I just wasn't looking forward to getting one kid on the bus, dropping the other off at school and dropping my car off to get an oil change on my way to work. I'll just have to plan it for a day he is home so he could get the kids off to school:) I really don't mind that I get to try out a different car every 5,000 miles.<br /><br />Thanks for helping me realize that I am not the only person dealing with these things while married to the ever traveling pilot:) Brendanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-75840678123873102672013-01-18T12:11:23.412-05:002013-01-18T12:11:23.412-05:00Thank you for your kind words and support.
I ha...Thank you for your kind words and support. <br /><br />I have to ask, did you fill all your tires in the alotted 5 minutes? :)Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-8999259869169968922013-01-18T12:09:52.913-05:002013-01-18T12:09:52.913-05:00So, is he going to take the car for the oil change...So, is he going to take the car for the oil change? I always take my car since the shop is close to my work, and they give loaners. And his car gets one every 15K, so he can finaggle that. <br /><br />Thank you for your perspective on my blog, because I started to question it for a second. And yes, this blog is a sort of journal, so writing it out does allow me to vent. Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-68082970054596679572013-01-18T12:07:57.642-05:002013-01-18T12:07:57.642-05:00I like that..."man tasks" They are man ...I like that..."man tasks" They are man tasks! Yes, we did know what we were getting into. It doesn't mean it wears you all of us from time to time ;-)<br />Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-67310533664330817172013-01-18T11:45:21.664-05:002013-01-18T11:45:21.664-05:00I enjoy reading your blog and can relate tremendou...I enjoy reading your blog and can relate tremendously, actually I was just doing the exact same thing the other day-filling my tires. I absolutely hate doing anything with the cars and have always insisted it is the mans duties but when your pilot is away, only you are there to do what needs to be done. Thanks for blogging about these things, it helps to get through situations when you feel their are others going/feeling the same way. Ashleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-28626386931983563942013-01-18T08:49:09.958-05:002013-01-18T08:49:09.958-05:00My husband just came home after being gone 4 days,...My husband just came home after being gone 4 days, home 2, gone 3 days and I am due for an oil change. I turned to him and said "can't you set it up and take it in for me when you are home next?" After doing the single mom thing while he is out of town I am exhausted and I just wanted a break from the car duties too.<br /><br />P.S. I do not read your blog and feel that you are unhappy. I can really relate to your blog and the things you go through when your husband is out of town. It is probably a way for you to vent I'm assuming. I get frustrated when things come up and my husband is out of town, but I could not imagine my life without him in it.Brendanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-5470815979706195522013-01-18T08:09:56.828-05:002013-01-18T08:09:56.828-05:00I feel this way frequently. I lived on my own for...I feel this way frequently. I lived on my own for about 6 years before I met my pilot. Of course I am perfectly capable of putting air in my tires or getting an oil change but when I got married, I was ready to give up those "man" tasks. Not so much when you marry a pilot. It doesn't mean I would change who my pilot is or change our lifestyle. I knew what I was getting into. :) Great answer above to the other comment. Blogs only touch on a fraction of the real life... and who really wants to read about the mundane stuff in life anyways? ;)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08778678789173107387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-27538324521532934072013-01-17T22:30:36.956-05:002013-01-17T22:30:36.956-05:00Wow. To answer you first question, I am still mar...Wow. To answer you first question, I am still married because I love Steve and he is the father of my children. He makes me happy. He is my other half. I couldn't imagine my life without him. He makes me feel whole. As much as we have our ups and downs, I can whole heartedly say that I am happily married. <br /><br />The thing about my blog is that I keep it to the topic of being a pilot wife. I chose this topic, and I focus on it. If our life is vanilla, I don't blog about it. Who wants to hear that Ben had gymastics tonight and CC watched a movie on the iPad. I blog about the 'good' stuff. The stuff that is entertaining to read, and stuff that other pilot wives can relate to. Perhaps this comes off as being all my focus in my life, but that is far from the truth. <br /><br />I am glad your eyes are open and you know what you want. Susan, I wish you the very best with everything. I wish you happiness.Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-64463456899262591522013-01-17T22:10:30.014-05:002013-01-17T22:10:30.014-05:00After reading this for some time I have to ask, wh...After reading this for some time I have to ask, why are you still married? Granted you have some rays of sunshine in your blog posts but it's basically about how you are in a miserable situation and won't take the necessary steps to change it. I bet even some friends can see it but are too nice to tell you. I hope you don't take this the wrong way (then again if I were in your shoes reading this, I wouldn't like this comment either). Well even if you don't do something, you motivated me to. I realized I too started to sound like you. After a lot of soul searching and speaking to some people I trust, I'm going to get a divorce. I don't want to continue to be trapped in an endless cycle of resentment and passive aggressive hate any more. I don't want this life so thank you for opening my eyes.Susannoreply@blogger.com