tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post7353880398819716199..comments2024-02-19T04:50:58.801-05:00Comments on Daddy...Daddy, come back!: Survival Tips for Pilot WivesJoannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comBlogger79125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-79443231369398581782022-07-02T19:03:34.534-04:002022-07-02T19:03:34.534-04:00Ahh I was really fine in the beginning.
We would ...Ahh I was really fine in the beginning. <br />We would take advantage of flying stand by and I would get very excited when he would get home....until...we had 2 kids, then it really got very lonely! There's hardly any time for the two of us. He's sleep is horrible so his energy is below zero. I'm having the hardest time now dealing with sexual needs not met and trying to study while taking care of 2 kids full time. I'm hoping that when they start school life will feel more normal. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-83836768247100423352022-05-15T16:40:59.683-04:002022-05-15T16:40:59.683-04:00I appreciate your patience at home and you sound l...I appreciate your patience at home and you sound like a bit of a saint, but this reads like a 1950s how to. Make sure he comes home to a clean house? Bite your tongue because he’s tired? three days without texting on a trip, like what? If he can’t send a heart emoji while scarfing a subway sandwich at the airport, his work life balance is unhealthy. My husband constantly gets surprised responses from other pilots when he explains I have a (possibly even cooler) career or that we have to use daycare because I have an actual job. I vote pilot wives stop buying into the mad men mentality and remember their life and their career and their exhaustion are equally valid. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-57988882276094122022021-04-17T08:59:45.437-04:002021-04-17T08:59:45.437-04:00Looking for your love life back, that person that ...Looking for your love life back, that person that you love and can’t let go off? Well I know a person who is good at what he does and a person that keeps his word to get you and your husband, wife, partner back together for good and that is Lord Zakuza! I lost my partner and we have been together almost 5 years and was going REAL good! My partners family had something to do with us breaking apart and I felt like I couldn’t go on in life because my partner meant the world to me !! I cried and couldn’t sleep nor eat but I never gave up on my partner! I started researching and I was reading numerous articles about Lord Zakuza and how his love spells work and you could get your partner back within 24 to 48 hours! I contacted Lord Zakuza and told him everything that was going on and he told me not to worry at all!! I followed and did everything that he told me to do and within 24 hours after he did his work my partner was back in my arms and I am the happiest person on this earth he got my love life back and I feel like a brand new person! Trust me he is the best and he’s on WhatsApp with this number +1 740 573 9483 and on Email via lordzakuza7@gmail.com you can contact him.MARGARET DALEYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028389454597106845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-27564387622735880402019-03-11T06:05:40.625-04:002019-03-11T06:05:40.625-04:00I am so incredibly GLAD you finally said the FA wo...I am so incredibly GLAD you finally said the FA word. Yes... infidelity is a huge part of being a pilot’s wife. How would I ever be able to catch him in the act ? He takes his computer, his iPad (for <br /> flight plans and charts and so forth ��) his phone and all of his expense records with him each trip. Butttt...He knows my every move. He sees all of my bank transactions the credit card transactions, the phone records. We have “security” cameras all over the house. I have to keep my location services on at all times. I see nothing pertaining to his activities, at all, ever. On top of all of this BS ... he’s gone weeks at a time (with FAs) in beautiful warm sunny tropical venues. There is always an FA. The whole “crew”stay in the same hotel. Have meals together and drinks together sightsee together... and he fits me in when he has an extra second for the obligatory phone call ( which is not very often because of his busy schedules ... it usually last a few minutes to discuss what’s going on here and ends abruptly with pax are here gotta go or just maybe just a text ) to the person who single handedly has facilitated his super successful career for almost 20 years. But the FA gets the pleasure of all of my husband ... I’m not the only pilot’s wife that has to deal with this BS I absolutely don’t care if you admit it out loud or not ... but years ago each time he walked out of that door all I prayed for was for him to come home safely. Now... I still wish for that, but also for him not to be giving private lessons to the GD trolly dollies. Most of them could care lesss and just want to “do” a pilot... face it ...we shine him all up and send him out there looking like a movie star... while I’m at home looking like something the cat dragged in because I have zero time for myself and even if I did I wouldn’t be able to do anything the way I “plow through money “. I’ll never trust him again... which is so unfortunate, because never once did I ever question his love for me before ... but now I don’t even try to cover up the fact that we are cohabitants ( when he’s home) and live parallel lives that will most likely never cross paths. If you decide to go to V1 on this life you better be damn sure you love this guy with your entire being and moreover you had better really really like him!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-67172581449265357382018-09-22T21:15:48.594-04:002018-09-22T21:15:48.594-04:00Mine flies for a cargo company and his schedule ju...Mine flies for a cargo company and his schedule just plain ol' stinks. His trips are 16 days long and if say he works the last 16 days of the month, he can sometimes get stuck with the first 16 days of the next and be gone for 30 days. It stinks. He just upgraded to Captain and I'm super proud of him, but now on top of an already tough schedule, now he doesn't even get a choice. He misses A LOT. We have one child. Help! Its so hard! 😖Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08865216797207113743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-50471951888384991842018-06-26T20:09:38.723-04:002018-06-26T20:09:38.723-04:00Please try counseling. I was the last post I beli...Please try counseling. I was the last post I believe, as I just found out about this blog. Read it!!! I am a success story that Should not be... but most women that fall in love with pilots have very different emotional needs. Please reach out. I am so thankful I waited to end it..... there can be beauty!!! I hate the lifestyle but love my husband!!!!! 30 Years with wings!!!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290719767330658733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-18678340585622790162018-06-26T20:01:31.303-04:002018-06-26T20:01:31.303-04:00I also agree, being a pilots wife with kids is cha...I also agree, being a pilots wife with kids is changed either after kids have left ( like me ) or no kids..... I know I have become a little depressed with out the busyness of the house slowed down. I am a teacher who gave up my career to be the “pilots wife” ... love it, but hate it as well....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290719767330658733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-36717062673124432582018-06-26T18:55:35.719-04:002018-06-26T18:55:35.719-04:00WOW, didn’t realize I had so much to say... anyone...WOW, didn’t realize I had so much to say... anyone out there who is an empty nester with a pilot husband that doesn’t come home every night to “empty nest with”. All my friends in this situation are having the times of their lives bc their husband comes home and they have this new found freedom.... I find a little lonely and jealous of all of the fun cities mine get to got to without me... its coming,.. jus not right now...This is my new normal... and I truly don’t love it!!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290719767330658733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-42462578623030736692018-06-26T18:46:13.575-04:002018-06-26T18:46:13.575-04:00MARRIED WITH WINGS SINCE 1990......Wow... what a g...MARRIED WITH WINGS SINCE 1990......Wow... what a great blog! I cherish groups like this to “understand” we do not live a “normal” life like most married people do. There are times my acquaintances/friends don’t understand that my man just got home from a 5 day trip and I can’t wait to see him so I am not doing a girls night! I did not mean to be a pilot’s wife... as everyone always asks... Didn’t you know???..... NO!!!!! instead wish I would of married a boring man who came home every night. There is so much I could say.. because there are sure positives to living this life, however, there are the negatives too.... you have to take the good with the bad. I just know the good Lord had plans for us to be together....and in the process I grew as a wife and a person..... We fell in love 30 years ago, before pilot training, before being a military wife, before all the wars and commercial airlines with bars, flight attendants, and distance between us! So, the rest is happily ever after! Not exactly! In fact, we had a disagreement this morning as he is in San Diego “resting” for his trip home.... Ha! Perception is everything!!!! This is a tough walk, however, as I look back it is so worth it. We have been Happily married for 28 years..... doesn’t mean we didn’t disagree or have issues, but we are happy and I can’t wait to see him every time he walks in that door. We have done some counseling which is a “must” in my opinion. Most pilots marry teachers or nurses ( research has been done ) and usually what attracts us at first becomes a REAL problem because our emotional needs are totally different from one another. We have led and done lots of bible studies/marriage groups/ seminars like Love and Respect, Family Life Weekends, and God’s Dream for your marriage. Books like “How we love” , 5 Love Languages, and multiple others are also very helpful to keep this type of marriage healthy. Grass is ALWAYS greener where it is watered. And to think that I almost left him at year 4. I am so blessed I never “bailed before the breakthrough” ... We have 3 beautiful, healthy children who love traveling , have seen the world, and two are in flight school right now. I am beyond lucky!!! Hang in there to all who all struggling. It is not easy. I pick my battles, but also know that sometimes I must not bite my tongue or I will be resentful. This has been a learning process for both of us! I always try to freshen up before he walks in the door and our tradition is on 1-2 trips alone... no kids... a year. I think I cried halfway to Paris once because I didn’t want to leave them.... then cried half way home because I didn’t want our love affair to end!!!! Somehow pulling in the driveway does that!!! For childcare, Even when kids were little, we would trade with another trusted couple, or pay an older trusted adult for a couple of days..... Now the kids telll us, “hey, you guys need to get away together”... what a blessing to pass on to our children. I also, no matter how tired I am, show him how much I will miss him by spending some intimate time before he leaves. Don’t send him to the grocery store hungry! I obviously am very passionate about my marriage, proud of being married to a pilot, but VERY real about the struggles and concerns we have as we hold down the fort for our man. My guy doesn’t like to communicate by nature.. well that has changed over our 30 years for being together..COMMUNICATION IS MUST!!! ..... we both try, even when we aren’t perfect... and that what helps this to work. Love to all of my girls who walk this tough but rewarding path! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290719767330658733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-4312056917710389302018-06-01T09:22:50.918-04:002018-06-01T09:22:50.918-04:00Hello Everyone! I have been with my pilot for abou...Hello Everyone! I have been with my pilot for about 4 years now and been married for nearly 2. We have a wonderful 2 year old together. We have gone through some issues which caused him to file for divorce, and later I found out there was infidelity involved with a flight attendant. My husband has asked to work things out and cancelled the divorce proceedings and I agreed to give him a second chance. We started seeing a counselor but I’ve come to this blog in hopes on seeking some advice from other wives out there who have gone through similar situations. What did you ladies do to cope especially when your pilot is away? How do you build that trust again? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405943462082598601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-6009791727490149322018-04-16T12:23:39.263-04:002018-04-16T12:23:39.263-04:00Well, so I'm a newbie to this airline- wife th...Well, so I'm a newbie to this airline- wife thing. We had a good heart to heart the other night. (yea, that bite your tongue thing came up). After a struggle with infertility, we have a 9 yr old and a 10 month old. Our little 3 person family is trying to adjust to the new baby. On top of it all, last year when I was pregnant, hubby lost his (good paying job) and was out of work for 5 months while trying to get into the airlines. On a good note, he was able to drive me to the hospital when my water broke - at home! <br />Ok, back to the point. life has been rough for a while, and I've decided to be a SAHM. The more I think of it, everyone in the house will benefit from this. I look forward to it. <br />I subscribed to your blog. Thanks!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17704206783767254325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-61737199600292172632018-03-15T11:18:32.747-04:002018-03-15T11:18:32.747-04:00read this blog post:
http://comebackdaddy.blogspot...read this blog post:<br />http://comebackdaddy.blogspot.com/2013/08/raising-family-when-dad-is-pilotthe.html<br /><br />There is no question that raising a family has been the hardest part of this whole pilot wife gig. But, now that our kids are older (8 and 10) the jobs isn't as much of a chore as it used to be. <br /><br />Hopefully the post will speak to you. As for being worried - don't be. It's amazing the amount of strength you will find (even when you don't think you have any more) when you have to be a solo-mom. You can do it, no doubt! <br />Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970722739917121208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-66286168700015793532018-03-14T00:47:23.682-04:002018-03-14T00:47:23.682-04:00Hey Joanna, chanced upon your post while googling ...Hey Joanna, chanced upon your post while googling for some inspirations and advice regarding these struggles. Your post is really enlightening and has helped me gain a fresh perspective. I’m about to marry a pilot who had just completed his training and will be going for his first Europe flight and would be away for 4 days. Got me thinking about how I would cope in the near future when we start a family. I’m worried that having to singlehandedly care for our kid few days in a row while he’s on a long haul flight would make me start to resent and manifest negative feelings..I’ve never been a big fan of this career but been supporting his passion so it’s still something I’m battling with until now. any words of advice for this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-90649890288014028482016-05-20T16:19:17.076-04:002016-05-20T16:19:17.076-04:00I have been married to my pilot husband for 9 mont...I have been married to my pilot husband for 9 months. He is a fire fighting helicopter pilot and has been on contract for two months now. I don't know when I'm going to see him next and sometimes I don't hear from him but once a day when he's back at base and exhausted. I started my own blog to help myself cope (rotorwingwife.weebly.com) I really appreciate all the tips. I really love him and I want us to work and be together forever as I'm sure everyone wants in the beginning stages of a marriage. I miss him so much it hurts but I will persevere because I believe that we are worth it. Thank you so much for you encouragement and I hope that this comment finds you and family well and happy.Hilary Van Ordenhttp://rotorwingwife.weebly.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-76815154460363620442016-05-16T14:00:50.713-04:002016-05-16T14:00:50.713-04:00Freebird1 - I am currently divorcing my airline Ca...Freebird1 - I am currently divorcing my airline Capt husband, lived together since 2011, married 2014. I totally agree with your last statement 'no balance' and ' roller coaster'. I personally felt I was going mad in the end, after many ups and downs, Jekyll and Hyde behaviour that really concerned me, whilst being made to feel it was me that was in the wrong. We tried counselling and that just highlighted how bad it had become. Was second marriage for us both, two of my kids lived with us and it was too hard on them too. One minute a lovely guy, the next a sergeant major that created a walking on egg shells home. He was a bully at times. Since I left with my 15 and 24 year old he has fallen apart, been ill, in hospital and signed off til June. Meanwhile I have got two jobs, rented a house, got my life back together and enjoying being out of the 'bubble'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-306845403623258332016-03-08T01:58:41.267-05:002016-03-08T01:58:41.267-05:00Helo everyone...
I'm bit nervous of getting i...Helo everyone...<br /><br />I'm bit nervous of getting in yo the stage of being a pilots wife.... <br /> thought I could manage my self as a girlfriend, lover even.... Now I'm bit nervous that will I manage my self better.....<br /><br /> could you all give me for this new wife..pleaseMercyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11704839782361663095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-47739727514663137122016-03-08T01:58:10.176-05:002016-03-08T01:58:10.176-05:00Helo everyone...
I'm bit nervous of getting i...Helo everyone...<br /><br />I'm bit nervous of getting in yo the stage of being a pilots wife.... <br /> thought I could manage my self as a girlfriend, lover even.... Now I'm bit nervous that will I manage my self better.....<br /><br /> could you all give me for this new wife..pleaseMercyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11704839782361663095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-19309535332248286902016-02-26T02:30:50.007-05:002016-02-26T02:30:50.007-05:00I gave up a lot to marry him and I got difficulty ...I gave up a lot to marry him and I got difficulty in return in many ways I never saw coming... He's great in some ways but horrible in others... I'd rather have a balanced life of so so in every area rather then this roller coaster ride I'm on. There's no balance to life with a pilot of my kind. I feel like I'm always on also and we don't even have kids together thank GOD! I can't imagine doing that alone. Freebird1https://www.blogger.com/profile/04004577381417007065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-49010347977424396722016-02-26T02:24:09.696-05:002016-02-26T02:24:09.696-05:00It's a no win situation at times. At least for...It's a no win situation at times. At least for me. He gets his cake and eats it too.Freebird1https://www.blogger.com/profile/04004577381417007065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-57773994285896812572016-02-26T02:22:45.835-05:002016-02-26T02:22:45.835-05:00Has to fly in the morning.... Has to fly in the morning.... Freebird1https://www.blogger.com/profile/04004577381417007065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-3186916800276223972016-02-26T02:21:33.697-05:002016-02-26T02:21:33.697-05:00I for one think it's a wonderful website as I ...I for one think it's a wonderful website as I lay here awake at night because I am going thru it due to my own issues with my pilot husband. It's been a life I wasn't prepared for to say the least and it's only getting worse! I am on the edge of divorce and definitely depressed over this lifestyle I now lead in it. I hav'nt been on in awhile but am finding comfort that it's here still. Otherwise I'd be keeping him up arguing cause I am angry as hell right now at him. Then I would have to feel quilts about keeping him up when he Freebird1https://www.blogger.com/profile/04004577381417007065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-72200542315810492872016-02-26T02:14:35.363-05:002016-02-26T02:14:35.363-05:00Also if you sleep 12 hours a night I'd see a d...Also if you sleep 12 hours a night I'd see a doctor because that's not normal! In fact I believe you are actually a pilot writing as a pilots wife in order to make the woman feel badly about her website blogs! Freebird1https://www.blogger.com/profile/04004577381417007065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-58735154061096941262016-02-26T02:10:13.874-05:002016-02-26T02:10:13.874-05:00I think being a mother is obviously quite importan...I think being a mother is obviously quite important to her and being married (wether to a pilot or not) goes hand in hand. What's she supposed to do pretend she doesn't have kids with the man? For your sake? When a woman is alone because she's married to a pilot her children must be her life in general cause he's not around obviously !Freebird1https://www.blogger.com/profile/04004577381417007065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-44228828021468549382016-01-02T14:13:07.222-05:002016-01-02T14:13:07.222-05:00I am also a pilot wife of 7 years and after readin...I am also a pilot wife of 7 years and after reading your blog I couldn't help but notice that so much of your perspective and experiences are driven by having children, not so much having a husband who is a pilot. My husband and I decided not to have kids and we enjoy a tremendous amount of stress free freedom. The travel benefits are amazing and I take advantage of them on a monthly basis. Hopping to Thailand, France, Amsterdam and Hawaii is not an unusual 3 months for me... I have NEVER had to bite my tongue around my husband, I sleep 12 hours a night, so exhaustion really isn't a problem. I certainly have never had to give up a pastime or activity I love simply because my husband is a pilot. Every day is "me time", I have never felt particularly compelled to make the house a "happy" place for another person to come home to - I make it a clean happy place because I live there and that is the environment I prefer. So lots of your advice is geared for having a busy household filled with children, not so much having a pilot for a husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024452810108480973.post-90727923786940403972015-12-17T04:33:54.391-05:002015-12-17T04:33:54.391-05:00Thanks for writing your blogs my husband flies a r...Thanks for writing your blogs my husband flies a rescue chopper and is on duty 24hrs up to 6 days a week it is encouraging to know im not alone. You have some good advice. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com